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13 July 2026

Clarifying the Etiology of Violence: A Self-Determination Theory Perspective on The End of Violence by Gary Slutkin

Is violence a disease or the symptom of a disease? Gary Slutkin in his book The End of Violence (EoV, 2026) has argued that violence is, in itself, a disease. I agree with him that violence is a deviation from the normal function of the mind causing morbidity and mortality, per the definition of disease cited on page 43 of EoV. The question is whether the violent acts that everyone would agree are characteristically morbid should be thought of as the whole disease or as merely one symptom of a disease that encompasses more than just violence. The disease, which to my way of thinking could be called supremacism, encompasses harms that are more subtle than its worst and most salient symptom, violence. 

Is the disease transmitted visually or culturally? EoV presents an argument that the disease is transmitted visually. I interpret this visual hypothesis as a behavioral approach, given the great conceptual leap that is made from perceptual processes to social consequences. I am familiar with behavioral approaches because I was trained in behaviorism and have a co-author credit for a behavioral study published in a leading behaviorist journal (Tan, et.al., 2014). 

Behavioral approaches are usually adequate to address behaviors that can be presumed to have been uninfluenced by organizational, institutional, and/or societal policies. Rats, pigeons, infants, non-communicative people, and even some types of behavior such as the unconscious blinking of our eyes, can be explained without reference to the larger social contexts in which they are embedded. While conceding that all the organisms just listed may, arguably, have psychological selves in at least some sense (Damasio, 2010), with the particular kinds of selves they have (or in some cases due to the particular limitations on how their self is being expressed) most of their behavior can be adequately explained with regard to reinforcement contingencies in their immediate environment via behaviorism. However, the behavior of most children and adults are not adequately accounted for unless we know about and take seriously the psychological self which operates as a key mechanism of motivation to act in the world and engage with the world that the self believes itself to be acting within. The most successful scientific model of human motivation and engagement today is called Self-Determination Theory (SDT) and it is, according to philosopher and psychologist Kennon M. Sheldon, “[T]he world’s most comprehensive and best-supported theory of human motivation. SDT has been under development for over fifty years and is still going strong.” 

The central tenet of Self-Determination Theory (SDT) is that all humans have primary psychological needs for relatedness, autonomy, and competence (Ryan & Deci, 2019). SDT was built up from the idea of positing just a single entity within the black box of the human mind, a self. The self is a necessary mental entity because experiments starting in the 1970s showed that people did not behave according to behaviorist predictions in a variety of everyday situations. There was something inside the black box of their human minds (to use a phrase favored by behaviorism’s B.F. Skinner) that modified how they responded to reinforcement contingencies. Over decades SDT has proven that human psychological well-being is caused by the satisfaction of those needs. The cognitive processes within the human mind constantly assess the situation for opportunities to satisfy those needs or identify threats that may thwart them. Based on that assessment the mind allocates some level of energy, which is commonly called motivation. Based on where in the spectrum of motivation the self is located actions are taken, or refrained from, to produce some type of engagement. 

Inspired by recent work from Rebecca Winthrop and her colleagues (Anderson & Winthrop, 2025; Winthrop, Shoukry, & Nitkin, 2025) I have summarized the science of SDT  (applied to school settings) in the diagram [[which I have not added yet, email me attitutorATgmail.com]]. The four main boxes indicate discreet states as they are experienced and described by teachers and students in classroom settings. The vertical “Implicit Owner of the Goal” distinction is based on motivations being either autonomous, which will have positive effects on well-being, or controlled, which will have negative effects on well-being. The horizontal “Depth of Engagement” distinction is based on separating the merely behavioral, shallow engagement from the agentic, deep engagement. The mode most conducive to conceptual, transferable learning is the Explorer in the bottom right box. The mode most conducive to disrupting the conceptual, transferable learning of others is the Resister in the bottom left box. The modes that are most conducive to demands for unquestioned obedience are the Passenger and Fauxchiever. The Passenger is trying to be invisible and minimally engaged, likely avoiding punishment. The Fauxcheiver is trying to get the rewards on offer, but only engages to the point of getting the reward, not with sufficient intensity to achieve conceptual, transferable understanding of the subject being taught. The Fauxchiever is actually learning how to manipulate the system for rewards, to go through the motions, to jump through the hoops, but avoids doing any work beyond what is rewarded.

Before I return to the issue of violence I want to explain my perspective on levels of analysis. This is relevant because getting the levels of analysis problem wrong prevents us from properly understanding the nuances of the phenomenon under scrutiny. Slutkin appears to share a concern for achieving accuracy based on this quote:

“[T]o effectively treat disease of any kind, you need to diagnose it correctly — not just name it but deeply understand it and the mechanisms by which it operates.” [emphasis added, EoV, p.23]

If we misidentify the proper level of analysis we can send ourselves on a wild goose chase. 

Consider the phenomenon of a whirlpool. It is a prime example of an emergent behavior in certain bodies of water. If we want to understand the causal factors that contribute to the existence of a whirlpool we have to examine it at the right level of analysis. Imagine if we encountered an alien life form that was not familiar with bodies of water. In the process of sharing what our world is like we send our new alien friend images of whirlpools and a tiny sample of water, just a few drops. Our alien is a member of an inherently skeptical species, so he casts doubt on the existence of whirlpools. He says that when he examines a few of the individual water molecules we sent him (only a small volume could be sent due to the cost), he can find no evidence of whirlpools. Based on his examination of water molecules he states that whirlpools are a figment of our imagination and that our images must have been AI hallucinations. 

How should we address our alien friend’s concerns? He is correct that there is no evidence of  whirlpools in water molecules. There is, in fact, no way to deduce the existence of whirlpools from the properties of water molecules. As I said before whirlpools are a paradigmatic example of an emergent phenomenon. Addressing his concerns would involve a more complete description of the physics of fluid dynamics and, short of sending him enough water to experiment with, a physics simulation software for him to play with would probably be a close second. 

A similar confusion arises in the philosophical debates about the existence of free will. When a sophisticated scientist like Robert Sapolsky looks carefully at the various levels from biological to ecological he can not find any evidence that free will exists. In his book Determined (2024) he claims that the most important evidence to prove the existence of free will is to point out a neuron that makes a “choice” that was not already determined by the contextual factors surrounding it. Sapolsky’s book is particularly salient to this conversation because the central example that he returns to throughout the book is a potentially violent act, the pulling of a trigger. I cannot find any flaw in his analysis of almost all of the factors that he considered; however, I can also see that he failed to consider the role of the psychological self in the experience of free will that follows from SDT. 

In his book Freely Determined: What the new psychology of the self teaches us about how to live (2022) Kennon M. Sheldon explains the three central arguments against free will: the reductionist (materialist) perspective, the doctrine of predetermination, and epiphenomenonlism. Reductionists claim “that there is nothing but matter obeying physical laws in the universe.” Predeterminists claim “that things couldn’t possibly turn out any differently than the way they did; the universe is a giant machine, clanking along toward an inevitable conclusion.” Epiphenomenonlists claim that “our experiences are always mere symptoms of prior causes; they are never causes themselves. They’re dead ends in the chain [of causality.] … [O]ur feelings of being intentional agents are delusional.” Sheldon also shares the three related capacities that philosopher Christian List argues are necessary for free will to be present in a system (human or artificial): 1) the capacity to consider several possibilities for action, 2) the capacity to form an intention to pursue one of those possibilities, and 3) the capacity to take action to move towards that possibility. 

For my purpose now it is critically important to show that the central problem with dismissing free will from arguments about physics, chemistry, and biology (which are Sapolsky’s areas of expertise) is that the phenomenon does not occur at those levels of analysis. Free will is a psychological phenomenon that must be understood by accounting for other psychological processes that are relevant to that particular feature of the human experience. Specifically, a model of the self is necessary to connect the experience of free will with the physics, chemistry, and biology that makes that experience both possible and real.

When we recognize the role of the self in determining our behavior we can be sympathetic to both sides of the debate. The determinists who take materialist, predetermined, and/or epiphenomenonl perspectives have convincing evidence and arguments for almost all of their positions. The problem arises when they neglect to acknowledge that the self has a key role to play in modifying the reinforcement contingencies provided by the situations in which they are embedded. There is a key difference between water molecules interacting under physical constraints and humans operating within social constraints. 

No one is foolish enough to argue that water molecules make freely willed choices about what formations to create as they flow through a sink. A whirlpool is a structural outcome of multiple dynamic forces interacting with each other at the body of water level. Molecules are largely irrelevant except for their mere presence as a substrate in which the structure can arise and the level of viscosity that they exhibit collectively. The macro-conditions (the shape of the container, flow speed, and gravity) organize the particles into the spiral pattern that becomes the vortex that is the central characteristic of a whirlpool.

Most of the time humans also respond fairly automatically, at least to some degree, to the macro-conditions that surround them. This is why a significant amount of human behaviors can be satisfactorily explained with behaviorism; see The Nurture Effect by Anthony Biglan (2015). However, there are times when the self takes the reins and alters the pattern of conditioned responses. Most of the time most people do not exercise their free will. But sometimes they do. They perceive their situation to be one that is no longer satisfactory for the kind of person they want to be or the goals and/or aspirations they have chosen to pursue. Their cognitive machinery goes to work on generating possibilities that would be a better match for their intentions. They form an intention to pursue one of those possibilities and, finally, they take action in pursuit of that possibility. If we examine all the lower levels of machinery we will not find evidence for the free will that was exercised. The waves of cognitive activity that this process entails did not ever rely on a single neuron to fire one time and not another. Free will is probably better described as a process within a distributed network, not a singular moment or a neural structure. Neurons are the necessary substrate, but they do not play any other other role in the existence of free will. The majority of the process was completed outside of consciousness, so introspection is not of much help. The story of this process is told in a manner that might be interpreted to suggest conscious activities, but that is debatable. Yes, there was likely some conscious processing involved, but it need not have been decisive in determining any given part of the process. It is possible that consciousness takes undue credit for the work of non-conscious patterns and processes in the course of exercising free will. 

As I mentioned before, the initial evidence for the self as a necessary mechanism for explaining human behavior arose out of behaviorist experiments. Those studies produced results that contradicted the dominant behaviorist principles which were developed in the context of B.F. Skinner’s admonishment to be properly scientific by not attributing any cause of behavior to mysterious entities in the mind, until it is absolutely necessary. Back in the late 1960s and through the 70s many scientists arrived at the point of absolute necessity and, in the case of SDT, only posited one entity, a cognitive self. 

The most famous experiment in this literature gave children reinforcement for doing things that they were otherwise known to do spontaneously without reinforcement. The central principe of behaviorism is that behaviors that get reinforced increase in frequency. However, when the children were reinforced for painting, drawing, and other inherently engaging activities, they did less, instead of more, exactly the opposite of what behaviorism predicts. This gave rise to a scientific formulation of the idea of intrinsic motivation based on the observation that supplying extrinsic reinforcements for intrinsically motivated behaviors can sometimes inspire the self to reevaluate the behavior. A child’s unconscious thought process might be something like, “If the adults are using their manipulative powers to induce me to do that behavior maybe it’s not as awesome as I thought it was and I should do less of it.” Over time the notion of a dichotomy of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation has given way to a more nuanced view. Today, it is better to refer to autonomous versus controlled motivations, as I have depicted it in the visual summary earlier. The autonomous motivations, which are more attributable to internal reasons (which include some types of extrinsic motivations), have positive effects on well-being, while the controlled motivations, which are more attributable to external or instrumental reasons, have negative effects on well-being. 

The psychological self is not a distinct entity with its own brain area. It is not real in any physical sense. It is real in the same way that a center of gravity is real. Physicists discovered that they could make better predictions about the tipping point of a physical object by inventing the idea of the center of gravity. Note that centers of gravity only exist in the context of gravity. Where there is no gravity or in the subatomic realms where gravity is not a factor, the idea is not applicable. The center of gravity has no physical reality, it is meta-physical, but it is real nonetheless because every physical object on earth has one and it is the most reliable indicator of when that object will fall over. It is fictional, but it is not fantastical. 

The psychological self is also a fictional meta-physical reality that is not fantastical. It will never be found in the brain, but it is observable in human behavior, as the SDT community has found over and over again for over 40 years. The self is found in a very specific level of analysis, and not in others. If you don’t know to look for it, you are unlikely to find it. With regard to violence, I believe that is why the EoV book failed to take the self, as conceived of by the SDT community, into account. 

I agree with almost all of both Slutkin’s and Sapolsky’s points. However, there are a few key points that do not align with my SDT informed understanding of the science of how humans are in the world. Let’s examine the criminal pulling of a trigger, to borrow Sapolsky’s conceit. 

As a psychologist I have to say that the disposition (a.k.a. personality) of the individual is one of the least powerful factors in the situation. There are a variety of biological, relational, organizational, and societal factors that are far more powerful determinants of each individuals’ behavior. Sapolsky ran through an impressive catalog of those influences in both his Determined book and in his Behave book, so I will focus on a few key experiences. 

Let’s imagine how a sequence of events might contribute to the pulling of that trigger. First, let’s visit our trigger puller when he was two years old. Puller (as I will call him) is dropped off at a daycare, a highly respected professional operation that supports his needs pervasively just as his parents have been doing at home since he was born. Puller has never witnessed violence nor been the victim of it. Yet, one day he gets frustrated when another two-year old seizes a toy he had been playing with and he instinctively reacts to this threat by biting his compatriot. If you believe The End of Violence book on page 41, this is not possible. “We aren't born violent. Violence is not innate, congenital, or inherent to an individual or group. Nor is it a universal human urge.” On page 63 it says, “Without exposure to violence, there is no violence.” 

Did I paint an impossible picture of Puller? Or, is it possible that as mammals who evolved in a world of predators that could eat us we may have some instinctive ability to inflict violence when threatened? Fight or flight is a well established instinctive response pattern, so contrary to the assertions in EoV, that “fight” part seems like a pretty straightforward universal starting point for violence. While it is true that human babies are ridiculously helpless, as they start to achieve early milestones of mobility and communication they can have their fight response triggered and have not yet achieved the cognitive skills to self-regulate their emotional reactions and the behaviors that follow. 

Taking this fight mechanism as a starting point enables us to get a clearer idea of how Puller’s early instincts were also quickly moderated by socialization in the day care setting. He learned to handle his frustrations by using his words and developing more trusting relationships in the day care setting. The mechanism is dampened by a combination of social experiences and behavioral contingencies. 

When he gets to be five years old his wonderfully loving and supportive parents do what most people do; they put him in a mainstream K-12 school system that sees itself as a crucially important societal institution responsible for delivering the skills and knowledge of literacy and numeracy. Puller is mostly told what to do and trained for obedience to the expectations of his teachers and the school administrators. His schools are all known for producing high achieving children. He learns that if he expresses his preferences, opinions, ideas, and passions the reception they get is entirely subject to the whims of the adults (or anyone else) in power. If they don’t like his notions or if they don’t like him, they have no obligation to treat him with respect and dignity (even though they will have written policies that say they do). They will follow the rules religiously, but they will also use those rules to belittle and annoy anyone they don’t like. He doesn’t learn this explicitly, he learns this through the hidden curriculum. The hidden curriculum is how brains interact with policies (in a broad sense) to create the limitations on what can happen in classrooms. The brain activities that embody his understanding are unconscious. The policies that taught him these lessons were not the written ones, they were the unwritten, implicit, and usually unconscious ones. They were taught through the high expectations and the unrelenting schedules that sacrifice sleep, relatedness, and autonomy. The school is proud that they produce such objectively competent scholars, but they ignore any evidence of the pervasive emotional and cognitive disengagement that plagues a majority of their students by the time they graduate. They proudly tout their anti-bullying policies, but they have never questioned the power structure that automatically generates those conflicts because the psychological needs of everyone in the system are mostly being neglected and/or thwarted. 

By the time Puller is approaching graduation he has normalized the neglect of his psychological needs. He has developed what is technically called a controlled causality orientation. That means that he automatically views any institution that his mind unconsciously associates with school to be a place where he must fight for opportunities and fight against anyone who might be a threat to his power and influence. His schooling has taught him to access his toddler fight reaction and apply it in more subtle, non-physical, ways that are socially “acceptable.” His goals and aspirations as a member of the institution have been redirected from healthy and wholesome ends to establishing and maintaining power and control. He compensates for not having real autonomy by taking control of others. He considers joining the military because he is inspired by the obvious power wielded by soldiers and their commanders. He is confident from years of high achievement in school that he can attain a high rank through such a clear command and control structure. He looks forward to an institutional structure similar to the kind that he mastered in school, only with more clarity and purpose behind it. As a teenager preparing for his military service he begins to find online sources that romanticize military service and the hyper-masculine stereotypes that dominate portrayals of soldiers in movies and TV. At home his parents are proud of his accomplishments and only experience him as a confident athletic boy with leadership potential. 

I could tell this story in a variety of ways from here, but we’ve already established that the outcome is the pulling of a trigger. It doesn’t matter whether it is before, during, or after his military service, or whether the final stage of his radicalization is online or in person. It doesn’t matter whether the gun was aimed at himself or someone else. The stage for the trigger pull was set by a school system that ignored or actively interfered with his ability to satisfy his psychological needs. A school system that normalized in him the dysfunctional “needs” for power and control rather than healthy expressions of the needs for relatedness, autonomy, and competence. The institution generated defensive psychological patterns and processes that became normalized in him as a worldview that made him distrustful of most, if not all, institutions and cynical about how other people would behave in them. The institution of school distorted his ability to perceive accurately, think clearly, and act effectively on self-selected goals and aspirations that would be appropriate to his situation. Due to his achievements he was able to parlay societal privileges into institutional roles that insulated him from most of the direct consequences of those distortions. He just went about his business until his case of the disease of supremacism became so acute that he pulled that trigger. Depending on what position he had acquired, he could be dead, in jail, or in a privileged place of honor with every (mostly implicit) expectation that he would never face a just accounting of the moral consequences of that particular trigger pull. 

To review, Puller had a perfectly normal instinctive fight response as a two-year old and had that instinct suppressed by positive socialization. Then he began attending mainstream schools that maintained a public image of high achievement that he did his part to uphold. He obediently subsumed his psychological needs in pursuit of goals that the community thought would be good for him. He learned to normalize the neglect of his needs and developed a worldview that led him to expect the same of all institutions like school. When he turned his attention to military service he was exposed to attitudes and beliefs beyond school that added cultural overlays that intellectually and emotionally justified the power and control he craved as being good for him and everyone else as long as he was tough enough to endure, like a real man would. Those beliefs contributed to the worsening of his supremacism symptoms to the point that he pulled the trigger of a gun in an act of criminal violence. Etiologically we can say that the instinctive fight mechanism was present early on but was socialized into dormancy. His schooling began the process of reactivating that fight response through persistently neglecting and thwarting his psychological needs. He found institutional supports for his frustrations through taking control of other people through leadership positions, which reinforced the institutional patterns of need thwarting and neglect. When he encountered the military and the social reinforcement of supremacist beliefs, his mind more fully adapted to the disease which resulted in his ultimately enacting violence. The disease ran its course. 

I want to address two other specific claims from the End of Violence. First, “[W]ith violence, there is nothing standing between exposure and infection” [EoV, p.45]. I doubt that this is true. This might seem true when taking the visual model as a given, but I don’t think it stands up to scrutiny under the SDT-based model. The visual model takes no account of the meaning-making processes that are required for the instinctive fight mechanism to be transformed into a cultural disease. The mechanism of exposure to the disease of violence is not the visual information in itself, it is the interpretation of that visual information as the thwarting of some needs. When violence is witnessed, the mechanisms that are constantly scanning for threats to need satisfaction would sound alarm bells. It is not the visual information that is triggering alarms, it is the interpretation of the consequences for need satisfaction. Dead and injured people have had obvious detriments to their most basic needs, and even if the harms were inflicted by your allies or friends you know that physical threats can do harms both intentionally and accidentally. The folks controlling the weapons inflicting harm are always a possible threat, so how you understand your relationship with them is critically important to how you respond. If you are thoroughly identified with and completely trusting of them, you will not feel threatened. You could, in fact, have your psychological needs satisfied by their actions if you have sufficiently close connections. Violence becomes associated with positive emotions through a combination of understanding your situation to be connected to important relationships and highly charged with meaning because of the autonomy and competence that can be expressed through it (even if those particular expressions are not healthy in themselves).  

Those positive associations would likely be undermined by taking a bigger picture view of the situation, so the cultural reinforcement would usually entail narrow conceptions of righteousness and valor. Acute infections of supremacism reduce the world to black and white, good/bad scenarios in which the battle must be won through total control or utter annihilation. It is the disease that would say, “Your calling is fulfilled by triumph over the hard challenge of defeating evil enemies. Remember that only the weak and the evil will cast doubt on the righteousness of your cause.” 

A cure for violence is not about preventing the visual input of violence, it is about reconnecting infected folks with their true needs and learning to reframe their lives around satisfying them while supporting everyone they care about to do the same, ideally in mutually supportive ways. 

Before I conclude I will briefly point out that EoV takes an odd position on what counts as an “adequate” school on page 28; “[I]nadequate schools do not cause children to bully or beat up their classmates, but kids who fear being bullied or beat up at school will not be able to learn.”

The notion of “adequate” that is entailed by this statement is one that must focus exclusively on the delivery of skills and knowledge as the only true obligation of schools. If that is true then an adequate school would be exclusively defined by demonstrating the successful delivery of literacy and numeracy as reflected in grades and test scores. From my SDT-informed perspective I take exception to this notion and with a moment’s reflection on the moral issues at stake I suspect most folks would agree. Any school taking custody of a child, before any kind of interaction can take place, is both morally and legally responsible for fulfilling its duty of care. No school should be regarded as “adequate” as long as the needs of the children are not being met, independent of all grades and test scores. By these lights it is ONLY inadequate schools that have persistent or chronic bullying or violence between students. The disease of supremacism may be a proximate cause of bullying and interpersonal violence but the school is also a cause when it creates the conditions for the disease to spread unchecked. Neglecting or thwarting the primary psychological needs of students and/or teachers is the hot bed in which supremacism is cultivated. 

In conclusion, I make the claim that violence is only the most salient symptom of the disease of supremacism. The natural precursor to the disease process naturally occurs in the form of the fight side of the famous fight or flight instinct. It sometimes manifests naturally and normally in toddlers who become frustrated or angry. While proper socialization normally and naturally suppresses the instinct for violence it can be reactivated and transformed into subtler expressions in institutional structures that normalize the neglect and/or thwarting of psychological needs of folks within the organization. The development of defensive attitudes and beliefs around those patterns of need neglect and/or thwarting are the cultural manifestation of the disease of supremacism, when they are shared and reinforced in organizational/institutional settings. Milder infections may involve only power structures that cause only psychological harms that do not rise to the level of physical violence (as appears to be the case in most mainstream schools today). If the disease process continues to develop it can reach a degree of intensity that can result in various forms of violence. More severe infections can result in a range of violent outcomes from interpersonal violence to countries at war. The cure for supremacism is need support at the personal level. The cure at the organizational level is to have participatory decision making and conflict resolution processes. Conflict resolution is the most important because decision making, independent of who makes the decisions, inevitably leads to conflicts. If they are not handled appropriately the result will inevitably thwart or neglect the needs of at least some of the parties to those conflicts. At the societal level the cure involves using the same kinds of cultural channels for meme propagation as the disease uses. The memes that cause the disease need to be driven out of the memetic codes of everyone in the population, both individually and organizationally. 

The work of Slutkin’s organization Cure Violence when seen through the SDT lens provides abundant examples of the multi-level cure process. The numerous stories he tells about their methods and the numerous challenges they faced in getting their work done attest to how important the supporting of relatedness, autonomy, competence, and beneficence are to effectively addressing violence. The stories are compelling and well told. 

When we examine the causes of both violence and free will we must take the psychological self into account. The science of the self is concerned with the metaphysical reality of how an individual person is able to modify the flows of energy and information in their environment for their own purposes. That self is not radically unconstrained, as some in the free will conversation might want or expect it to be. The psychological self involves a process of modifying the individual’s responses to contingencies in the environment, specifically by continuously, non-consciously evaluating their environment for opportunities or threats to need satisfaction. 

The patterns of behavior are predictable when we understand both the contingencies and the systematic ways that individual minds evaluate those contingencies. The notion of free will is where the self makes a “choice” regarding the level of response that will follow from the contingencies that it is aware of. The exercise of the will is not in a singular decision; it is in the pattern of responses over many decisions. The self is an active participant in the construction and maintenance of the environment in which it responds. The central factors of this implicit consideration are needs. There can be other factors, but in a healthy individual the needs will be central. Unhealthy individuals pursue substitutes that may only roughly approximate the needs (e.g. power and control instead of autonomy). 

Violence is a symptom of a cultural disease process that values power and control over healthy expressions of autonomy and relatedness. The disease builds on evolutionarily valuable instincts for fighting off predators. The disease process begins with normalizing need neglect, proceeds to normalizing need thwarting, and, at its most extreme, culminates with a system of beliefs and values that take violence to be both a necessary and desirable part of life. 


I created an extended version of the Puller scenario as a Choose Your Own Tragedy story, Click here for a mobile friendly PDF version.


References:

Anderson, J., & Winthrop, R. (2025). The disengaged teen: Helping kids learn better, feel better, and live better. Crown Publishing Group.

Biglan, A. (2015). The nurture effect: How the science of human behavior can improve our lives and our world. New Harbinger Publications.

Damasio, A. (2010). Self comes to mind: Constructing the conscious brain. New York, NY: Pantheon Books.

Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2019). Brick by brick: The origins, development, and future of self-determination theory. In A. J. Elliot (Ed.), Advances in motivation science (Vol. 6, pp. 111–156). Elsevier Academic Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/bs.adms.2019.01.001 

Sapolsky, R. M. (2017). Behave: The biology of humans at our best and worst. New York, NY: Penguin Press.

Sapolsky, R. M. (2023). Determined: A science of life without free will. Penguin Press.

Sheldon, K. M. (2022). Freely determined: What the new psychology of the self teaches us about how to live. Basic Books

Slutkin, G. (2026) The end of violence: Eliminating the world’s most dangerous epidemic. New York, NY: Little, Brown, & Company.

Tan, L., Sosa, F., Talbot, E., Berg, D., Eversz, D., & Hackenberg, T.D. (2014). Effects of predictability and competition on group and individual choice in a free-ranging foraging environment, Journal Of The Experimental Analysis Of Behavior. 101(2):288-302. doi: 10.1002/jeab.76.

Winthrop, R., Shoukry, Y., & Nitkin, D. (2025). (rep.). The disengagement gap: Why student engagement isn’t what parents expect. Brookings Institute. Retrieved from https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-disengagement-gap/. 


22 March 2011

Essence of Atttiude First Teaching

I believe in the power of the situation and the focus of my work is distinguished by my assumption that in order to teach properly I have to have control of the situation. Not control in the way a marionette pulls the strings of his puppet, but in the way a sailor knows how his boat interacts with the wind and the waves. The sailor does not any hope of taking control of the wind and the waves, but can learn to master his own boat in the context of the wind and waves. The right minded sailor must have profound respect for their power and dances with them to achieve his goals. And to be clear children (and other people, more generally) are the wind and the world in which I meet them is the waves, and the boat is everything I have control over. In this view of teaching gaining control of the situation makes pretending to have control of other people in the situation mostly unnecessary.

The influence I have over the situation is based to a large degree on the depth of my relationships with others who are helping to co-create it. The high art in my teaching practice is not about directly challenging students to attain some standard of mine, but to inspire them to exceed their own standards and expectations. That kind of inspiration arises from having a deep form of intimacy in which we are fully engaged with the world and the challenges it has presented us. It is from the depth of a highly trusting relationship that I am most able to make a difference with my students. And the most reliable way to build trust is to be able to manage the situation for a combination of challenging circumstances and reliable access to whatever tools are needed to meet the challenges.

24 January 2011

The Story of School video and Atittutor Media are coming!

I am very proud to announce a new project and the formation of an organization to make it, and future projects, happen.

The project is called the Story of School and it is a presentation that will become a video about one of the deep cultural roots of the problem with current school reform efforts. As long as we have a school system that forces adults responsible for children to sacrifice their moral duty to nurture those children on the alter of academics, then school reform will fail.

Attitutor Media is a company that I am forming to create media products and deliver public speaking and consulting services to school leaders.

Contact me if you would like to know more.

16 January 2010

A Student's Perspective on Teaching

Below is an important distinction for teachers to think about. Steve Miranda is the teacher presenting a quote from one of his former students:

I received a note from a former student who was there when I threw out the traditional curriculum and began integrating more progressive pedagogy. She called it the time when I “stopped teaching”; I didn’t think that was accurate, so I told her so. Here’s her response:

“[A]s a clarification to “stopping teaching,” it was more that you stopped teaching us in the traditional way—here’s info, learn it (aka memorize it for a test and forget it 30 seconds after you put down your pencil and walk out of the room). Next. More info. Learn that. Test. Next. Etc etc. . . , and that you started actually EDUCATING us about the things that interested us, weren’t black and white, didn’t have a concrete answer, and weren’t able to be measured on a test. So I would like to modify my first phrase: you stopped being a person of higher ranking and constantly the one with superior intellect (aka, a traditional teacher), and became a person who was intelligent, open to ideas, and generally a human being who genuinely cared about the students, culture, and environment we are growing up in, versus the scan-tron happy teacher with the ‘pass’ or ‘fail’ stamp.”


Here's the original post.

13 January 2010

Empowering Children in India

This TED Talk is about by the founder of a school taking a simple idea to scale:

31 October 2008

05 November 2007

Q&A Core Concepts of Learning

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Education: Attitutor Learning Theory
Learning is automatic, unconscious and impossibe to avoid. A learning theory based on learning, not just teaching.

It was originally created for Yahoo! Answers:

What are core beliefs that are important to you when you think about learning?

posted by thmtom

Q&A Core Concepts of Teaching

from Yahoo! Answers:

What are core beliefs that are important to you when you think about teaching?

posted by thmtom

Answer Written by Don Berg, Attitutor:

Teaching is the process of assisting someone else to share in your view of the world, usually a view informed by a particular community that shares certain narrative forms and assumptions about the world. Those communities are often called subjects, disciplines, or fields of study.

Another important core belief is that students do not need teachers, but teachers need students, therefore there is an inherent imbalance of power that a good teacher will NOT attempt to compensate for. A good teacher takes advantage of the fact of the student's position of superior power in the relationship. (This is the core of my fundamental critique of mainstream classroom teaching contexts, they put teachers in a reversed power situation that is fundamentally untenable.) The leverage that a proper teacher has over students for the purposes of getting them to conform to the discipline being taught is the privileged access to the world view the student desires to experience.

Thus, there is, in fact, a balance of power in a proper student/ teacher relationship. The student does not need the teacher except for the fact that the teacher has privileged access to the narrative community that the student wants to join. The student is perfectly capable of going to other teachers or learning to access the narrative community through it's literature directly. This is especially true today through the internet. The advantage of using a real teacher, and especially a really good teacher is that the teacher can enable a student to learn much faster and with purposeful direction that leads to the heart of the field.

It is a tragic mistake that mainstream schooling has positioned teachers as dictatorial behavior managers. It is a tremendous waste of time and energy that could be much more productively directed to real learning and teaching.

Source(s):

My web sites:
http://blog.attitutor.com
http://www.teach-kids-attitude-1st.com

My book:
Attitude First: A Leadership Strategy for Educational Success

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I adapted this answer for my web site here.

Q&A Core Concepts of Leadership

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Leadership: Leadership Is Not Management
Leadership is about aligning the context of an organization to meet the needs of those inside, those outside it, and other organizations. Management is just meeting the needs of the organization.

It was originally written for Yahoo! Answers:

What are core beliefs that are important to you when you think about leadership?

posted by thmtom

03 November 2007

Q&A Convincing Mom To Home School

from Yahoo! Answers:

How to convince my mom to let me get homeschooled?

I'm fifteen and a sophmore and in HS and have decent grades.. I just can't stand going to private schools anymore and she won't let me go to public.. I do go out with friends alot so I'm not worried about socialization.. What can I do to convince her this would be better for me?

Additional Details:

Thanks.. My friends wouldnt do it.. Does someone have to actually teach you or can you teach yourself in homeschooling and just get a tutor once a week to check up on you or something? What should I say to my mom to make it seem as though I'm not going to slack off or anything?

Thanks sooo much! I'm deffinatly going to start looking into different programs and hopefully by Christmas I'll be able to convince her that I can do it.. She works full time and I don't have a dad so the assignments in the morning might be good.. As for my friends.. They wouldn't want to be homeschooled but they wouldn't care if I was.. Private school kids especially at the all girls school I go to are horrible and my mom just doesn't understand.

posted by: Steph P

Best Answer - Chosen by Voters (written by Don Berg, Attitutor)

Great idea!

First, do your homework. ;-)

You should approach your Mom with a well thought out case for not only why you want to do it, but several options for how to do it.

Check out the local laws via the HSLDA site (I'm assuming you are in the USA) so that you know exactly how to obey the laws.

And as an additional resource for planning your escape from school I recommend the Teenage Liberation Handbook: How to Quit School and Get Real Life and Education.

Good luck!

Source(s):

Teenage Liberation Handbook

Home School Legal Defense Association

02 November 2007

Q&A Which attitude is correct?

from Yahoo! Answers:

Which attitude is correct?

I was a person who took the responsibility of each and everything. When a person hurt me or block my path, I always thought in his favour, that he is not wrong if behaving like this, he is forced to do that as he can't resist that. And then I go on continue my work. But there is someone who had been so adamant in blocking my path that finally I started to blame her as I was bearing her for 4 or 5 years. Now I couldn't control My anger.But one day when I started to blame her in front of a friend, he said, "Upto when you will do like this,blaming others for your condition. You and no one is responsible for your own condition.But at times, you would have got emotional while you just had to keep your eye at your goal." and so on. Actually, he was meeting me after so many years and did'nt know about me at all. I later understood that he meant that we should fight with those people. That way,I agree, the goal would be achieved. But would not we abusing them ? That too, when she is mother.

posted by anuragsrawat

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker (written by Don Berg, Attitutor)

The attitude that is correct is the attitude that leads to well being for both you and those around you.

Your initial attitude of taking responsibility for everything seemed correct, except that when the situation got worse you succumbed to your humanity by getting angry but you did not have the ability to control it.

Your initial attitude was flawed. Instead of dealing positively with the natural feelings of resentment that follow from being abused by others, you denied those feelings. Then, when those feelings finally broke through your denial you were out of control.

Your initial attitude was an illusion of responsibility, not the real thing. True responsibility is being able to deal with reality through creative responses to what is actually happening. Your initial version of responsibility denied the reality of your feelings about what was happening to you and so you have suffered the consequences of your lack of responsibility through uncontrollable anger.

If you want to be truly responsible for everything that happens to you, which is a very good idea, then you have to find ways to acknowledge the reality of both the events that happen to you and all your thoughts and feelings about those events. Denying your feelings, even "negative" feelings, is a denial of what is really happening. Although it is usually wise not to express them wantonly and in situations that will cause strife. Gossip is not helpful.

What you need is a trusted confidante. Someone, or better yet a group of people, who would accept your thoughts and feelings and help you deal with them without betraying them to others. For me that is mostly my girlfriend and my Mom. I have a religious community that I can trust, too.

The right attitude is the attitude that leads to well-being for all. That means that you acknowledge the abuse you receive and then find creative ways to express the negative feelings that will, inevitably, result from being abused. If you simply attack your abuser then you may enter a cycle of retribution, each of you taking revenge for the attacks of the other. And retribution cycles are not constructive, nor creative avenues for increasing well-being since they tend to spread to other people who are forced to take sides in the battle.

By all means take responsibility, but also remember to be respectful. Respect yourself by finding ways to safely express your feelings in private. Respect your community by finding ways to prevent abuse from spreading and eventually stop it, if possible. If you cannot stop the abuse, then see if you can escape the situation where the abuse happens.

Source(s):
My web sites:
http://www.teach-kids-attitude-1st.com
http://blog.attitutor.com

29 October 2007

Q&A Capital or Lower Case Letters First

from Yahoo! Answers:

A question for parents who home school pre-k or kindergarten.

I have just started homeschooling my 5 year old son. Along with two other 4 year old boys. I have lots of different books/workbooks that were given to me before we started. Some say to teach capital letters first, then learn lower case. Others say to teach them at the same time. Any parents that have dealt with this, and opinions on which way is better. I would really appreciate it. Thank you.

Blessings,
Jennifer


My Answer:

I home schooled other people's kids (mostly 5-12 year olds) for about 5 years and preferred to take an informal approach to reading and writing.

Think about it this way, did you teach your child to speak vowels first or consonants?

Of course, you didn't "teach" your child to speak consonants and vowels they simply learned them. The way they learned them was by being completely immersed in spoken language.

I recommend teaching reading and writing in the same way. Make sure that you read and write as part of your everyday activities when you are with the kids.

Let me give you an example of how I did this with two my students one day. I was teaching two 7 or 8 year old boys who decided that they wanted to order pizza to be delivered for lunch. I said that was a great idea and handed them a phone book.

Now neither of these kids were readers yet, so this presented a significant challenge. They needed to know the alphabet and how to look up "pizza" and then the phone etiquette for getting the necessary information about how much it would cost. Then they had to figure out if we could afford it with the budget that we had for each day.

I do not think we even had pizza that day, but based on their enthusiasm for the idea they learned about the alphabet, etiquette, math and probably more than that.

I helped when asked and to the extent that they requested. Their learning was driven by the fact that much of what they needed to do to accomplish their own goals required literacy skills. Therefore they learned a variety of literacy skills because that was what they needed to accomplish their goals.

Source(s):
My web site

Q&A: Components of Attitude

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Attitude Simplified
Attitude is how you arrange the mental furniture of your body/mind re-creational vehicle as you explore the world of your experiences.

It was originally written for Yahoo! Answers:

What are the key components of attitude?

Posted by: james_jass

17 September 2007

Q&A Education or Attitude

I have discovered the joy of Yahoo! Answers:

In your own opinion What is your key to success Education or Attitude?

Our class just had a debate regarding this topic.... and wheww... that was an interesting argument......
(posted by lizaray)

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker (written by Don Berg, Attitutor)


In order for the question to make sense you have to assume that education and attitude are distinct and separate aspects of success, which I do not believe to be true. To me education is fundamentally more about the development of attitudes than it is about the delivery of units of knowledge, skills and information. Therefore my answer to the question as it was asked is both, but a more interesting question is which is more important knowledge, skills and information or attitude.

I put attitude before the acquisition of knowledge, skills, and information because with the appropriate attitude you can always acquire more knowledge, skills, and information. On the other hand just having knowledge, skills, and information does absolutely no good if your attitude is one that prevents you from dealing effectively with reality.

For example take the dogmatic approaches to religion and science that are on opposite extremes of the creationism versus the big bang debate over the origins of the universe. Both sides are mired in attitudes that prevent them from acting with respect for the other people's point of view. The reality is that no one alive today can ever have any direct proof of anything that occurred that long ago, therefore it is ridiculous to destroy your own reputation and possibly the reputations of your opponents through nasty debates over something that no one can answer definitively one way or another.

For me, it's attitude first, always. Once you get your attitude straight then you can always get whatever you need to succeed after that.

Source(s):
My website: www.teach-kids-attitude-1st.com

06 July 2007

Access to Power: Re-reading Man’s Search for Meaning, Part 2

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Re-reading Viktor Frankl's Man’s Search For Meaning: Access To Power
Viktor Frankl wrote his famous words about attitude in the 1940's, but we've come a long way since then. Learn how attitude gives access to power.

28 June 2007

Writing In Spite of My Schooling: Re-reading Man’s Search For Meaning, Part 1

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Re-reading Viktor Frankl's Man’s Search For Meaning: Writing In Spite of My Schooling
Starting with Viktor Frankl's quote about attitude learn how the stories we are told, and tell ourselves, create who we are.

19 June 2007

Mapping Reality

As a song says, “There are images around us in everything we see, some are real and some are fantasy.” What are students mapping if they are mapping reality? (refering to Practical Philosophy)

I have concluded there are three kinds of reality; subjective reality, objective reality and embedded reality. The first, subjective reality is the default perspective that we, as humans, are wired for but is generally agreed to be somewhat misleading. Subjective reality takes the obvious fact of our conscious awareness as the central aspect of reality and looks at the world as being entirely manifested by that consciousness.

The second is one that has emerged as a very powerfully effective tool for apprehending subtle phenomena as attested by the extraordinary success of scientific technologies. Objective reality takes the subtle fact that we can arrive at certain shared understandings of what is real to be more real than any individual understanding. That is to say objective reality relies on the development of widely accepted social proof of what is real rather than any individual decision or opinion about reality.

The objective perspective has recently revealed itself, through the disciplines of cognitive sciences, to be an illusion, as well. The illusory nature of objective reality was revealed by the fact that, contrary to traditional assumptions, we do not perceive reality directly. Rather, what we come to understand as reality is entirely mediated by a complex system of neural filters between the actual “objective” event in the world and our ability to have any meaningful kind of awareness of it.

The third perspective is an emerging one that is not even in general awareness but it is a view that takes our biological embodiment to be a fundamental aspect of our reality and looks at the world from the perspective that we are embedded in a continuum of levels of reality corresponding to different levels of objectively accepted phenomena. That is to say that what is real is made up of (at least) atoms, molecules, cells, individual organisms, communities, societies, ecologies and a planet. In order to describe reality you have to be able to account for how any given phenomenon affects the different levels of reality, how that phenomenon is structured at any given moment, how it’s existence is patterned through time and how it participates in the variety of processes of change from one moment to the next at the different level’s of existence. This perspective is a synthesis of the objective and subjective perspectives because it acknowledges that there is an irreducible complexity in reality and the best we can hope for is arriving at understandings that serve to enhance our well-being rather than cause our ultimate demise.

Even this new perspective is known to be an illusion, but that is not a bad thing. It is an illusion that is a better for understanding the world than either a purely subjective naivete or a purely objective expert perspective. Better in the sense that it is more useful for ensuring our well-being.

So, how do we know what’s real? The short answer is that we don’t. We are simply unable to ever totally and finally determine a distinct boundary between what is real and what is not. Fortunately, we do have a pretty good idea of how to tell what’s real for most practical purposes. The advantage of the embedded perspective is that it can ideally incorporate both the subjective and objective perspectives as useful tools for discerning how to proceed.

So to answer the original question, what students are mapping in my philosophy of education is their own experiences and how they understand them matched against how other people understand their experiences. Teachers are charged with the task of developing a sufficiently trusting and intimate relationship with their students to encourage broad comparisons and mutually assist in refining their processes of making, using, and maintaining their internal maps for effectively navigating in life. Schools are meant to be institutional support mechanisms for the development of this kind of relationship rather than either a way to simply ensure subjective experiences of happiness or meet arbitrary “objective” standards.

The focus of the relationship that develops between the teacher and student is not meant to be focused on the personal interactions between those two people, but on the relationship between the student and the reality in which s/he is embedded. The teacher is presumed to be more skilled at organizing their own mind using the three different perspectives at appropriate times to ensure that they are perceiving accurately, thinking clearly, setting appropriate goals, and taking effective action. The teacher and student work together to observe the expectations that the rest of the world has for them including any objective standards that need to be met, they will record the patterns of subjective experience that help or hinder meeting those expectations and then work to align the different levels of reality to best facilitate meeting the standards in ways that are consistent with the goals and aspirations of the student.

13 June 2007

Practical Philosophy: An illusion of contradiction

My passion is to create a practical philosophy of education.

Of course, the phrase “practical philosophy” is usually considered a contradiction, but that is like saying that the phrase "house design" is a contradiction because a house is a real object but a design is merely an idea.

The connection between a design idea for a house and a real house is the blueprints that were used to guide the work of construction.

A blueprint is just a map of what will be instead of what is, kind of a map to a desired future.

Most people think about education as if it's just the delivery of knowledge, skills and information without any thought to how all that data relates to anything else.

That’s like thinking of a house as a pile of boards, nails and other building materials.

Education is really a process of cognitive cartography, a process of developing internal maps of all the knowledge, skills and information that we acquire as we live.

The problem in education is the fact that we have a huge on-going building project without an effective blueprint to help us put it all together the way we really want it to be.

My philosophy of education helps students learn to create maps of reality and then join in the project of building a world that works for all.

Follow-up Posts:
Mapping Reality

06 June 2007

Breaking Out of My School-Box Thinking, Part 2

This post has been adapted to become a page on my web site:

Breaking The Classroom Habit
The classroom is an educational habit and it's a habit that is sometimes bad for children. Here's the story of how I broke my classroom habit.